Don’t alow the fears, doubt and opinions of others to dictate to you what your success will be.
Many times people are haulted in life because someone they value has placed a limit on them. Someone else’s fear or inability to forward think should not be your reality.
You have been uniquely designed with purpose that is merely for your journey. Yes, we share our gifts with others but don’t allow someone who is afraid to guide you. Someone who is settled in life to hold you back from experiencing your greatest potential. I understand it may be difficult to break free when we have assumed roles in our family or hierarchical structures in a subculture. However, walking your road to your destination has to be your goal.
In the faces of people there is defeat, missed opportunities and regrets. Adults who because of a assumed family position missed dreams all to keep the people in our lives happy. While daily and year after year many times we sacrifice our happiness.
Churches, communities, the work force etc. are filled with people who have not reached their maximum potential. Trying to live up to someone else’s expectation is a captivity that everyday I strive to break free from. Sometimes that is having the ability to say No. It is wearing something that conventionally may not be the norm. It is experiencing opportunities that look different. It is the courage to step outside the comfort zone of what many have developed for certain individuals.
Sometimes the effects of being held back are so subconscious. It is individuals making little sarcastic remarks about choices you’ve made. Subtle comments about the length of your skirt by giving it a little tug. Statements made when you’re unavailable, “I guess we can make it without you.” These things are done in “fun” but are they? Are they meant to send you a subliminal message thay you’re kind of stepping too far away? So the rope of guilt gets pulled so that you remain in the confines of familiarity.
Social pressure is very much a reality as peer pressure. Socially we get pressured to conform to a certain behavior, certain thoughts, and beliefs. Being courageous to step out and determine what you believe is living the fearless life. Living a fearless life is not a reckless life it is determining that an individual decides what they want to take in. Outside influences may have a person engulfed in environments out of their control. However, they can choose what they let in.
We only have one opportunity to live. And to live life abundantly. Not all things that are pleasurable are sin. It is just Life!
Need To Change My Routine…
It’s funny when I’m sitting at work I can think of all the things I’d rather be doing. However, as soon as I leave I am in a rush to get home to do…nothing. Even when the weather is beautiful I find myself nestled in my chair reading or sitting in a quiet space. Often I will sit in the space and have thoughts of boredom.
So, I write, I create, I journal, I color, and I organize movements of inspiration. As I am inspired to write as I listen to the thoughts that run through my mind. I am also inspired to create as I have the stillness of the day. Although, I may feel productive I don’t feel challenged.
This is my first year as an empty nester. The years my sons were growing up it seems all I could think about was the day I was free. Free from, football practice, free from football games, track meets and driving here and there and rushing home to cook dinner. Those years came and left faster than I was prepared to experience. So now I am left to myself. No children to hide behind no children to blame for my evening schedule.
As I challenge myself with creating more experiences I have to be willing to do something different. I have to be willing to open my mind to find challenges. If I could just get off this wheel of routine and comfort I might just experience life. Wouldn’t that be great?
Some will never celebrate you like you celebrate them. They will never cheer for you while you cheer for them. They may never see how valuable they are so they use you because they don’t want to loose you.
Have you ever been in a situation that you rallied behind someone or their cause? Encouraged, pushed and supported them to win? Only to find that the same Fervor was not there for you. That when it came time for them to reciprocate this “mutual” loyalty it wasn’t there?
Well…that’s life. You cannot allow someone’s inability to do unto you as you have done for them to dictate how you show loyalty. Loyalty is like integrity. It doesn’t matter how loyal you are when everyone is looking, it’s about how you conduct yourself when no one is around.
The end is not final. The end is the beginning to something new. The end can catapult you into a stratosphere of new beginnings. However, when you hold on to what didn’t happen, how this relationship or partnership didn’t work. When you lack the ability to move forward, because it ended you will be in a place of arrested development. You may find yourself on a rant of bitterness about all the things that didn’t happen or that occurred that were displeasing to you.
We get hung up on relationships and connections with people. Relationships are not just between two people. It can also be a relationship/partnership in business or similar interests. I do believe that all things and contacts happen for a reason. Some of those connections are for a lifetime and others are only temporary. Breakups are never pleasant and so it takes maturity and self control for people to walk a way with keeping the other persons character in tact. As a defense mechanism we often drop bad seeds about the other person to uphold our reputation or our public perception or private belief about who we are in high esteem. When a relationship has ended we have a need to share the flaw of the opposite person as to justify the only possible reason there wasn’t a fit between us.
There is always a positive take away from broken relationships. There is always a benefit from something ending. It just takes courage for those involved to look at the value of what they gained. Not all partnerships or relationships carry over to your next destination. Sarcasm doesn’t prevail in a journey destined for success. Tearing down while you climb up doesn’t lift you higher. Lastly, just because it ended in one place doesn’t mean you won’t meet them again at a higher destination. Keeping your integrity in the complete circle of life and everchanging exchange of life only makes you better.
Raslyn T. Sleet💎
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You have to believe in yourself even when others don’t. You have to have courage in pain or adversity. You will also have to have endurance and be brave to reach your goals.
The truth of the matter is that strength is not always promoted. It is easier for the unsure and timid to be encouraged by others. In the wrong setting your strength could be intimidating. There are reservations in promoting the strong as there is a misconception that strength means take over. Strength is often taught to those who lack it but when a person has it they are told they are too strong.
Achieving your goals won’t come easy and you may not get the proper encouragement or guidance to reach the heights that you wish. However, because you are tenacious, because you lack fear, because you are confident in yourself YOU CAN MAKE IT!
I want to encourage you that even though you may feel your strength goes unnoticed and that you don’t get encouraged or promoted like others your time will come. Don’t be afraid to lead and don’t be afraid to maximize every opportunity that you have. God will make room for your gift. Dr. Myles Munroe states, in “Your Gifts Will Make Room For You”, It is your gift that is the key to your success. The second part of Proverbs 18:16 says, “A man’s gift…brings him before great men” (NKJV). You don’t realize that the gift you’re sitting on is loaded.”
Many times we feel we are at the mercy of someone else’s promotion. That is a falsehood that many people in position feel. They feel if the don’t put you “on” then you won’t move. Perhaps you may feel under utilized, perhaps you feel that your gifts have gone unnoticed. Be patient there is growth even in that.
Galatians 6:9 tells us, “And let us not be weary in well doing: for in due season we shall reap, if we faint not.” In this season don’t be worn out in your work don’t feel as if all that you are doing is not leading you to where you want to land. In the due, in the plentiful, in the all things perfect season you will reap what you have sown if you don’t quit or give up. Now is not the time for you to give up! Keep pressing!
Raslyn T. Sleet💎
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I Met Someone!!!
They are the most amazing person! I have been waiting for this perfect person to come into my life. The person with the best features, the best hair, the best dressed, the best conversation, someone who could love me, accept me with all my flaws.
Who would love me unconditionally and no matter what size I am they love all of me. I am so overcome with joy to have met their acquaintance and the smile that they put on my face because they have helped me grow to become better. They spent time with me in the quiet Dark moments and held my hand. They reminded me how strong I really am and they reintroduced me to my beauty.
I’ve been asking them where have they been all my life? And why did it take me almost 45 years to meet them. Then as my reflection looked back at me in the mirror and answered I’ve been right here in front of you. Why did it take so long for you to notice me? I smiled at my beautiful self and said I LOVE YOU❤️
Raslyn T. Sleet
Valentine’s Day has been a day that has been promoted as a day that is primarily centered around couples. Often times, Singles are not considered on this day. Now, how one defines single is a touchy subject. If you are a traditionalist, anyone who is not married is single. For this Morning Cup of Coffee let’s difine single as someone who is not in a ” relationship”.
Recognizing that Valentine’s Day is a highly commercial day, there is pressure that may be unconscious that leads to disappointing emotions. There aren’t many opportunities for Singles in their respective groups or organizations that address this day. As many singles post on their various social media things like, making reservations for one, or stating that it S.A.D. Singles Awareness Day as a means to get ahead of the upcoming day. Perhaps organizations, couples or groups who have companionship 364 days a year should do a special event to include Singles? That is highly unlikely.
So not to dwell on the unlikely I like to offer solutions. Perhaps Singles should meet up? Maybe singles should unite and go on a group date? Bringing a valentine to exchange? Let me know your thoughts. 💎RTS Ministries
This is a great day to start letting your life Sparkle a Little Brighter! Make today a great day!
💎Life experiences can make us Better or Bitter. Each encounter is designed to teach you about who YOU really are and what YOU really believe. Sometimes we miss opportunities to be better because of our own preconceived beliefs or fears. That fear can make us bitter, facetious, sarcastic and make off colored comments to the interests of others that are hurtful. It may also cause you to miss great opportunities to grow and be blessed by people that will stretch you to become Better. In this season of Of allow g myself To Sparkle a Little Brighter, I am learning NOT to be so quick to edit, delete and block people because they say something that I don’t like, don’t believe the things I believe, or are not interested in what I find interesting. #DecreaseMeGod💎
We live for our weekend so much that we spend it exerting a lot of energy. So, when Monday rolls around we wake up sluggish. We also begin dreading the day and the coming week. Let’s make this Monday Count! Let’s be thankful of the place we have to go that provides the means for us to enjoy our weekends. Let’s be thankful for the life we do have. Let’s be thankful for the mind and health we have which allows us to have a great day! Let’s make this a Monday Count.
Every morning we wake up is an opportunity for us to do something great! How you define great is the key. It doesn’t have to be some big movement. A small act of kindness is just as important.
Many of us measure what we have accomplished by the audience that we do it for. Today be great call someone you haven’t talked to in awhile. Let them know how much you appreciate them. Smile at someone in a checkout line. Say hello to someone when you walk pass them. Whatever you do just be great!