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                          Independent Thinkers

People who are independent thinkers can be misunderstood. In some cases they can be viewed as a rebel or a anti mainstream. 

Independent thinkers do not accept the status quo. They do not accept the way it’s always been done. Their concepts can appear to be off base because it’s not what is trending. 

I have often wondered why at any given time if you watch the three mainstream basic television channels you will find very similar shows at any given hour. They pit drama against drama, news against news, comedy against comedy, or sport against sport. It is a programming that is designed to compete with the normal. Anytime a show has been placed in a time slot that is out of the trending norm it has not been successful.

There are many systematic entities that capitalize on the complacent, compliant, need to conform routine of others. Anything outside of the box can seem to be extreme or hostile. I choose to allow my thinking to be free. I choose not to allow systems to frame my future in a picture they want to see. I choose not to allow the bondage of others to hold me captive to an idea or a level of comfort. While they are getting, grabbing, excelling, obtaining their hopes, dreams and aspirations. While mine are fading far in a distance. I choose to stop allowing others to capitalize on what I do well while holding me captive pumping me with their ideas making me to feel guilty for living.

You will find free thinkers as risk takers, their fashion sense is different, the things they read are different, what they believe can make most feel uncomfortable. They may be isolated even ostracized because they have a different mindset. 

If it is said the more you know the more you grow. Why are systems designed to keep you in a process that limits your ability? It’s like being a butterfly that has wings that has been clipped. You can fly, but just when you try to go higher the clipped wings prevent you from soaring and you can’t break free. Don’t be afraid to stand out in a crowd! Let your mind be MADE free!

Let’s Sparkle💎 A Little Brighter Together!

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Morning Cup Of Coffee: Extra! Extra!

                            LIVE LOUD

I’ve been told I’m “extra”. Initially I thought, how rude… then I realized, I am. Sometimes in life we get to do something “extra”ordinary. We get to live through situations and because of who we are, all that we have experienced, everything we have survived and overcome, can change the very atmosphere. Some years ago my grandmother told me something that stuck with me. I was feeling kind of trepidatious about a situation and she told me, don’t run from it, let them know you were there. 

How many of us sit along the sidelines of life saying things like, I wish I were more outgoing, I wish I could do this, I wish I could wear that, I wish I could say that? We are silently envying the life or persona of someone. In our minds we covet them, we secretly interject ourselves in their life, we see ourselves doing what they do. We imitate life in our dreams but when we wake up we are still watching life as if it is a movie.

I didn’t want to be that person. I didn’t want to let the opinions, fears, convictions, or standards of others become my reality. I didn’t want the expectations of others to become my driving force. That was a power I was not willing to surrender. When we give over to that power we surrender our wants, desires, beliefs and convictions. When we surrender to that we render ourselves powerless. The lack of power is a defeated feeling. It brings about hopelessness and maybe even despair in the atmosphere. It suffocates light and illuminates darkness.

If we want our atmosphere to change we have the power to change it. We have the power to change our perspective despite the circumstances surrounding us. Just as I learned that no one had power over me that I permitted them to have. I learned how to negotiate atmosphere and powershift my surroundings. I learned how to accentuate the positive things about myself even if it made others uncomfortable. I was unwilling to shrink to fit in. 

I have always been brutally honest with myself. I learned that taking an honest assessment of myself only improved my ability to be an asset to others. We like to look at the things that make us great. However, there is that under developed part of us that does exist. When I examined that part and work on improving that I learned that there was an extraordinary person that was bubbling on the inside of me. This was cause for celebration. The celebration is life. 

We can allow ourselves to fade away as we conform to this world. But being transformed by the renewing of our mind, what we think, what we feel, what we experience, how we live, how we respond to life. That proves, or affirms what Is good and what is acceptable. The world beats up on the creative, on the expressive, on the colorful and the peculiar. The ability to be made free is living in abundance and liberty. 

I have had some things happen in my life that would make the strongest mans knees buckle. I have lived through some things that gut punched me and knocked the wind out of my lungs. I have lost some people that I didn’t think I could make it without. Through it all, I learned how to stand. I learned how to embrace my total person. I learned how to take an honest look at myself so I could grow. I learned how to accept myself the best and parts that need improvements.

I have found that the sum total of who I am was designed to specifically enhance every situation I come into. You were not meant to just be here and exist. You were created to perform daily miracles. We come into connection with others to fuel and ignite, and too equip and sharpen. My goodness you are so special and uniquely inspiring and were meant to shine. Don’t let someone’s dark cloud rain on your parade or dim your light. 

I learned how to live unapologetically loud. I learned that I am an atmosphere changer and how to shift power! Most of all when I come in a room you might see “extra” but you will know “extraordinary” was in the room and miss me when I’m not there! 

Let’s Sparkle💎 A Little Brighter Together!

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                               Re-evaluate 

A SWOT Analysis is a useful technique for understanding your Strengths and Weaknesses, and for identifying both the Opportunities open to you and the Threats you face.

Used in a business context, it helps you carve a sustainable niche in your market. Used in a personal context Add to My Personal Learning Plan, it helps you develop your career, ministry or personal growth in a way that takes best advantage of your talents, abilities and opportunities.

Strategic planning is an organization’s process of defining its strategy, or direction, and making decisions on allocating its resources to pursue this strategy. It may also extend to control mechanisms for guiding the implementation of the strategy.

A strategic plan is a document used to communicate with the organization the organizations goals, the actions needed to achieve those goals and all of the other critical elements developed during the planning exercise. 

How often do you take an inventory of where you are? This has to be a realistic place of inspection. We go through life missing who we are by measuring ourselves unrealistically. We may measure ourselves according to someone else’s success. We may not give ourselves credit for what we do well. We may think we do something well that we need to improve. We also may be operating in a area that we may not be gifted.  It has been said that any area that you over process, can’t due with ease, takes energy, which can be masked bey being a perfectionist, is not an area that a person should operate. We may not be reaching our full potential based upon the feelings of others. Some have allowed others ideas of what is done well to overtake ones true desire. An assumed role can also limit what you are trying to achieve.

Taking a personal inventory takes courage and it can be difficult. We all have a perceived idea of who we are. We show very different facets of our personality in every environment. In this season, I want to encourage you to truly be your authentic self.

If you have a goal you are trying to reach in an area of your life, I want you take a personal SWOT analysis. Simply write out the letters separating in four columns. Ask your self what are your strengths, weaknesses, opportunities, and threats. Solicit input from two people that you respect. Select people who  will be honest. We all have fans that tell us the great things about what we want to hear. This will not benefit you in this exercise. To get the full benefit of this feedback, you will have to commit to truth no matter how uncomfortable it may be for you to hear. After you complete this write out areas of improvement that you need to embrace. Revisit your goal and take a realistic look at the work it will require for you to reach it. Write the vision, make it plain. 

What are the steps that you will take to get to the next level of you? What are the challenges that you are willing to overcome to become better? How will you embrace the totality of who you are and use it for your good.

God wants the very best for us and He wishes that we would prosper and be in health, even as thy soul prospereth. That health is, financial, mental, emotional, social, and dreams realized and actualized.

Let’s Sparkle💎 a Little Brighter Together!

Raslyn T. Sleet

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                            A Mother’s Love

A Mother’s love is one that can never be replaced. No one cheers for you louder. No one understands you better. The best that she prayed for you while you were helpless in her arms as a baby is something she hopes you get to experience. No one is more loyal and dedicated to your success. She sacrifices her goals and dreams so that you can reach yours and she never regrets doing it! 

In our best efforts we can never repay our parents for all that they have done for us. My mother is a soldier. She has raised her children, some grandchildren and some great grandchildren. 

I am the youngest of seven. My oldest siblings are seventeen and sixteen years older than me. I have no memory of two of my siblings ever living with us. By the time I was two years old they were leaving for college.

I remember as a child I hated that there were no siblings close in age to play with. I thought it wasn’t cool that my mom was old enough to be some of my friends mom. I often would ask her why did she and my father have me so late. Especially after my father died when I was seven. Her response was, well God knew that I would need someone to keep me company. I really didn’t fully understand what that meant. My mother is the youngest child and her mother lived with us in her latter days. So, now it is my turn to do for my mom what she did for her. 
I am thankful that I can attempt to keep peace in her home even when circumstances from assumed roles make it difficult. I Access every thing from her past. I want to know how she made it when it was hard. How she stood when she wanted to throw in the towel. I want to glean everything I can from this vessel while there is yet still time. It is my goal to keep this smile on her face. 

Many may never understand the bond that we share. They may envy the closeness that we have. It’s not for me to explain. But know when that beautiful woman looks at me she sees everything possible in me. That makes me push for her all the harder. She has taught me how to love, forgive, how to go without for my children, how to be humble, how to love God, how to be loyal and how to sacrifice. She has allowed me to experience so many wonderful things in life. She is my rock! 

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                            Fearless Living


Don’t alow the fears, doubt and opinions of others to dictate to you what your success will be.

Many times people are haulted in life because someone they value has placed a limit on them. Someone else’s fear or inability to forward think should not be your reality.

You have been uniquely designed with purpose that is merely for your journey. Yes, we share our gifts with others but don’t allow someone who is afraid to guide you. Someone who is settled in life to hold you back from experiencing your greatest potential. I understand it may be difficult to break free when we have assumed roles in our family or hierarchical structures in a subculture. However, walking your road to your destination has to be your goal.

In the faces of people there is defeat, missed opportunities and regrets. Adults who because of a assumed family position missed dreams all to keep the people in our lives happy. While daily and year after year many times we sacrifice our happiness. 

Churches, communities, the work force etc. are filled with people who have not reached their maximum potential. Trying to live up to someone else’s expectation is a captivity that everyday I strive to break free from. Sometimes that is having the ability to say No. It is wearing something that conventionally may not be the norm. It is experiencing opportunities that look different. It is the courage to step outside the comfort zone of what many have developed for certain individuals. 

Sometimes the effects of being held back are so subconscious. It is individuals making little sarcastic remarks about choices you’ve made. Subtle comments about the length of your skirt by giving it a little tug. Statements made when you’re unavailable, “I guess we can make it without you.” These things are done in “fun” but are they? Are they meant to send you a subliminal message thay you’re kind of stepping too far away? So the rope of guilt gets pulled so that you remain in the confines of familiarity.

Social pressure is very much a reality as peer pressure. Socially we get pressured to conform to a certain behavior, certain thoughts, and beliefs. Being courageous to step out and determine what you believe is living the fearless life. Living a fearless life is not a reckless life it is determining that an individual decides what they want to take in. Outside influences may have a person engulfed in environments out of their control. However, they can choose what they let in.

We only have one opportunity to live. And to live life abundantly. Not all things that are pleasurable are sin. It is just Life!

Get Off The Wheel


                   Need To Change My Routine…

It’s funny when I’m sitting at work I can think of all the things I’d rather be doing. However, as soon as I leave I am in a rush to get home to do…nothing. Even when the weather is beautiful I find myself nestled in my chair reading or sitting in a quiet space.  Often I will sit in the space and have thoughts of boredom.

So, I write, I create, I journal, I color, and I organize movements of inspiration. As I am inspired to write as I listen to the thoughts that run through my mind. I am also inspired to create as I have the stillness of the day. Although, I may feel productive I don’t feel challenged.

This is my first year as an empty nester. The years my sons were growing up it seems all I could think about was the day I was free. Free from, football practice, free from football games, track meets and driving here and there and rushing home to cook dinner. Those years came and left faster than I was prepared to experience. So now I am left to myself. No children to hide behind no children to blame for my evening schedule. 

As I challenge myself with creating more experiences I have to be willing to do something different. I have to be willing to open my mind to find challenges. If I could just get off this wheel of routine and comfort I might just experience life. Wouldn’t that be great?

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                                     It’s Over

Some will never celebrate you like you celebrate them. They will never cheer for you while you cheer for them. They may never see how valuable they are so they use you because they don’t want to loose you.

Have you ever been in a situation that you rallied behind someone or their cause? Encouraged, pushed and supported them to win? Only to find that the same Fervor was not there for you. That when it came time for them to reciprocate this “mutual” loyalty it wasn’t there? 

Well…that’s life. You cannot allow someone’s inability to do unto you as you have done for them to dictate how you show loyalty. Loyalty is like integrity. It doesn’t matter how loyal you are when everyone is looking, it’s about how you conduct yourself when no one is around.

The end is not final. The end is the beginning to something new. The end can catapult you into a stratosphere of new beginnings. However, when you hold on to what didn’t happen, how this relationship or partnership didn’t work. When you lack the ability to move forward, because it ended you will be in a place of arrested development. You may find yourself on a rant of bitterness about all the things that didn’t happen or that occurred that were displeasing to you. 

We get hung up on relationships and connections with people. Relationships are not just between two people. It can also be a relationship/partnership in business or similar interests. I do believe that all things and contacts happen for a reason. Some of those connections are for a lifetime and others are only temporary. Breakups are never pleasant and so it takes maturity and self control for people to walk a way with keeping the other persons character in tact. As a defense mechanism we often drop bad seeds about the other person to uphold our reputation or our public perception or private belief about who we are in high esteem.  When a relationship has ended we have a need to share the flaw of the opposite person as to justify the only possible reason there wasn’t a fit between us.  

There is always a positive take away from broken relationships. There is always a benefit from something ending. It just takes courage for those involved to look at the value of what they gained. Not all partnerships or relationships carry over to your next destination. Sarcasm doesn’t prevail in a journey destined for success. Tearing down while you climb up doesn’t lift you higher. Lastly, just because it ended in one place doesn’t mean you won’t meet them again at a higher destination. Keeping your integrity in the complete circle of life and everchanging exchange of life only makes you better. 

Raslyn T. Sleet💎

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                                    FORTITUDE

You have to believe in yourself even when others don’t. You have to have courage in pain or adversity. You will also have to have endurance and be brave to reach your goals. 

The truth of the matter is that strength is not always promoted. It is easier for the unsure and timid to be encouraged by others. In the wrong setting your strength could be intimidating. There are reservations in promoting the strong as there is a misconception that strength means take over. Strength is often taught to those who lack it but when a person has it they are told they are too strong. 

Achieving your goals won’t come easy and you may not get the proper encouragement or guidance to reach the heights that you wish. However, because you are tenacious, because you lack fear, because you are confident in yourself YOU CAN MAKE IT! 

I want to encourage you that even though you may feel your strength goes unnoticed and that you don’t get encouraged or promoted like others your time will come.  Don’t be afraid to lead and don’t be afraid to maximize every opportunity that you have. God will make room for your gift. Dr. Myles Munroe states, in “Your Gifts Will Make Room For You”, It is your gift that is the key to your success. The second part of Proverbs 18:16 says, “A man’s gift…brings him before great men” (NKJV). You don’t realize that the gift you’re sitting on is loaded.”

Many times we feel we are at the mercy of someone else’s promotion. That is a falsehood that many people in position feel. They feel if the don’t put you “on” then you won’t move. Perhaps you may feel under utilized, perhaps you feel that your gifts have gone unnoticed. Be patient there is growth even in that. 

Galatians 6:9 tells us, “And let us not be weary in well doing: for in due season we shall reap, if we faint not.” In this season don’t be worn out in your work don’t feel as if all that you are doing is not leading you to where you want to land. In the due, in the plentiful, in the all things perfect season you will reap what you have sown if you don’t quit or give up. Now is not the time for you to give up! Keep pressing!

Raslyn T. Sleet💎

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                                I Met Someone!!!

They are the most amazing person! I have been waiting for this perfect person to come into my life. The person with the best features, the best hair, the best dressed, the best conversation, someone who could love me, accept me with all my flaws.   

Who would love me unconditionally and no matter what size I am they love all of me. I am so overcome with joy to have met their acquaintance and the smile that they put on my face because they have helped me grow to become better. They spent time with me in the quiet Dark moments and held my hand. They reminded me how strong I really am and they reintroduced me to my beauty.  

I’ve been asking them where have they been all my life? And why did it take me almost 45 years to meet them. Then as my reflection looked back at me in the mirror and answered I’ve been right here in front of you. Why did it take so long for you to notice me? I smiled at my beautiful self and said I LOVE YOU❤️ 
Raslyn T. Sleet

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Valentine’s Day has been a day that has been promoted as a day that is primarily centered around couples. Often times, Singles are not considered on this day. Now, how one defines single is a touchy subject. If you are a traditionalist, anyone who is not married is single. For this Morning Cup of Coffee let’s difine single as someone who is not in a ” relationship”. 

Recognizing that Valentine’s Day is a highly commercial day, there is pressure that may be unconscious that leads to disappointing emotions. There aren’t many opportunities for Singles in their respective groups or organizations that address this day. As many singles post on their various social media things like, making reservations for one, or stating that it S.A.D. Singles Awareness Day as a means to get ahead of the upcoming day. Perhaps organizations, couples or groups who have companionship 364 days a year should do a special event to include Singles? That is highly unlikely. 

So not to dwell on the unlikely I like to offer solutions. Perhaps Singles should meet up? Maybe singles should unite and go on a group date? Bringing a valentine to exchange? Let me know your thoughts. 💎RTS Ministries